Sunday, October 30, 2016

There Can Be a Happily Ever After

            When we go through a season of uncertainty and conflict, we tend to forget the good memories and focus on the negative ones. Most of my adult memories seem to center around dealing with Matt and the effects on our family. But every once in a while a memory will creep in of a day long past. 
            Yesterday I stopped by the old Krispy Kreme in East Lake. I had purchased a fundraising ticket from a former student or otherwise I probably never would have ventured there. As I traveled down first avenue, I was shocked at how desolated and run down the area had become. It was almost unrecognizable to me. East Lake Auto was gone, the vacuum cleaner place was gone. Joe and I had our first real "date" meal at Carnaggio's which was just up from El Palacio's, a favorite Friday night meal spot with Joe's mom and dad. They were both gone.
           As I pulled through the updated drive-thru, I had one of those memories that seem so real you can almost hear sounds and smell scents from the recollection. I looked over to the deserted parking lot that had belonged to a Hill's grocery store in 1958. We would often purchase our weekly groceries there while we waited on my Dad to meet us from his job at Hayes Aircraft. We only had one automobile so he most likely had someone drop him off there. 
           For one brief moment I felt like a time traveler. I could remember riding in a buggy inside the store. I remember faintly the music in the background. I could see the older girls pushing miniature sized carts alongside their mommies. There was an echo from the voices of customers and workers bouncing off the high ceiling and the linoleum tile floor.
           My favorite part was looking at the Little Golden books. There was no toy section and even if there had been, we knew not to ask for anything. Money was scarce and we used it to purchase necessities. Occasionally I was allowed to select one Golden Book. I guess it was considered a need since it was educational. With a blink I found myself in the parking lot waiting for Daddy, turning the pages of my book, and learning about living "happily ever after." 
          As I returned to 2016, I realized how momentary time can be. I can look back. If only I could have seen forward from that same spot. Would I change anything? Could I have prevented Matt from going to prison?
         The answer to that is No. God is in control. I have to keep a positive attitude when everything surrounding me is negative. Romans 8:28 tells us that all things work for the good for those who love the Lord and are called according to his purpose. That gives me Hope! I know without a doubt, that trials will come in this world, but I do not have to go through them alone. Just like the stories in my little Golden Book, I have to remind myself that there is a purpose for my suffering and with Christ Jesus I can truly have a Happily Ever After, even if it’s not in this life.

Thursday, March 31, 2016

Fear Not

        With another Easter on the books, I find myself thinking about what I will be facing when Matt does come home. I'll be almost ready to retire with an adult child moving back in my house. There is always the possibility that he will find a job where he does his time in the halfway house, but that may also be close to home. 
           There are many things to get anxious about. Will he be able to find work? Can he move on independently with his life? Will I have to help retrain a man/child when I didn't do such a good job the first time around? 
            One thing I don't want to think about is the possibility of relapse. From what I've read, there is an extremely high rate of recidivism with the prison population. According to the National Institute for Justice, "Recidivism is one of the most fundamental concepts in criminal justice. It refers to a person's relapse into criminal behavior, often after the person receives sanctions or undergoes intervention for a previous crime. Recidivism is measured by criminal acts that resulted in rearrests, reconviction or return to prison with or without a new sentence during a three-year period following the prisoner's release." It's a scary fact to consider when the statistics say 76.8 % of released prisoners are rearrested before their third year anniversary of freedom. 
            When I think of how many times I've tried to lose weight without success or how many resolutions I've broken, it's impossible to have a peace in knowing he could be another statistic. AND YET I AM STILL HOPEFUL. I once took a quick study in discerning my God-given Spiritual gifts. Not our talents that we are born with, but the gifts God gives to believers to serve the Kingdom. My survey showed my greatest gift was faith. What kind of gift is that? Don't all believers have faith? 
            As I travel this journey called life, I am becoming more aware of just what having the gift of faith means. I find myself accepting things that many people search for years trying to find an answer. I often trust the Lord without even questioning why or how.
I remember a particular worrisome time when I first learned Matt would be serving his first year in a Federal maximum security prison. My mind became focused on the negative and the possibilities of what could happen to my son in prison. After a few weeks of being anxious and scared, I took to my knees in prayer. That little voice I heard in my head said, “I’m going to take care of Matt, you let me worry about the HOW.” From that point onward, I have tried to remain positive and let the Lord handle it. I have tried to remember all the times the Holy Bible says “Fear Not!” It sure helps me sleep better.
 I will continue to pray for Matt. I do not think his life has been spared so many times from sheer coincidence. He has a purpose, as we all do. My prayer now is that Matt will be reminded that the Lord has protected Him this far and He will protect him in the tough times ahead. I hope he, too, hears the tiny little voice that says “Fear Not, Matt.  I’m God. I got your back!”



“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10